tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post1014446380667513826..comments2024-01-13T02:10:43.757-08:00Comments on A Utah Mom's Life in New Hampshire: Because I Said So . . .Cindihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09733094827105056023noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post-20808506313901861882011-05-29T22:55:43.954-07:002011-05-29T22:55:43.954-07:00Sometimes headstrong and passionate children have ...Sometimes headstrong and passionate children have a need to feel they have some control in their lives. (I know, I was one and had 5 of my own!?)<br /><br />So if he has to practice any time before he goes to bed (or his siblings do if they go earlier) he can choose ANY time he wants. Of course "the fun stuff" will also have to wait until it's done too.<br /><br />So he's reminded once and then it is let go. No more words about it. None. Each time we engage by giving explanations we give them "ammunition" to throw back at us. Ex.You- Because I love you. Him- If you loved me....<br /><br />So what if it doesn't get done that day? Then he has the next day to make it up. Maybe giving a "free day off" coupon that can be used once every 2 weeks or?<br /><br />If he holds out for a looonnnggg time then he is probably trying to say more and it'd be time to ask him, "How can I help you?"<br /><br />Boy, I just got up on my pedestal and you didn't even ask for my advise nor do you know me.<br />Thank goodness for delete!<br /><br />Good Luck! It is evident that you love your children very much and want what is best.Reynahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338898718251290682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post-12002067745391326162011-05-23T18:00:26.701-07:002011-05-23T18:00:26.701-07:00Since he does actually like it, it is good that yo...Since he does actually like it, it is good that you stick to him practicing. We do the "finish the season" thing and then decide on things. I've had ballet kids quit a couple days before a recital and I'm like what parent lets their kid decide that? With that said I was a kid my Mom made take piano. I hated it every minute. I took it for 6-7 years. Once I was allowed to quit I have never regretted it or played since (and I'm in my mid-30s now). Sometimes a certain thing just isn't your kid's thing...Lieselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04448069588519971797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post-13950116006771565312011-05-21T09:44:37.752-07:002011-05-21T09:44:37.752-07:00My sassy 9 year old would take a nice long nap ign...My sassy 9 year old would take a nice long nap ignoring me on his boring bed as a punishment. Unfortunately the world seems to thing the rules are different because I have that "step" in front of Mom. It seems like it completely cancels out the authority in my "Because-I-Said-So" decrees. Cheers for sticking through his original grounding and making him practice. <br /><br />KiraBossyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06075110454901078505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post-17732290905217816652011-05-20T20:45:41.675-07:002011-05-20T20:45:41.675-07:00Thank goodness there are moms like you. That'...Thank goodness there are moms like you. That's all I have to say. If I had quit the many times I had wanted to, I wouldn't be able to do the job that I love and I would have missed out on a lot of blessings in my life. It's such a good stress reliever too! Just tell him that all the girls will fall all over him if he keeps it up! ;) I know they loved hearing my brother play, that's for sure.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05926776238924244596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post-45311584923872736282011-05-20T17:39:02.777-07:002011-05-20T17:39:02.777-07:00Mom of 12 -- I completely agree with you. We'v...Mom of 12 -- I completely agree with you. We've had discussions and made decisions like letting Neal decide not to sign up for soccer the next year. And as he gets older we will let him choose a different musical instrument if he wants. He really does like piano. Normally, piano practice isn't a big deal and he often plays beyond his practice time. It's just become a battle of wills right now.Cindihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11872058340946492652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post-9130982461607707012011-05-20T17:21:49.916-07:002011-05-20T17:21:49.916-07:00I see lots of moms who let their kids start someth...I see lots of moms who let their kids start something and then if they aren't happy they get to quit. My theory is that as a parent I want to give my kids all kinds of opportunities and then they can choose the areas they want to focus on. That said, I'm mean about some stuff...I require scouts and church activities. I won't let them quit anything mid-season, but after the season is over and a reasonable amount of time is over so that we can discuss things without passion, we decide together if there will be another season. I also require some sort of music (but I'm not as good as you with piano, usually it's an instrument like the clarinet or trumpet). There are so many choices for kids and parents to make but I think it's fun to see what they choose and how they grow! I've had band geeks, dancers, and even a drama queen...<br />SandyMom of 12https://www.blogger.com/profile/03622293584581118824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1417629034785050535.post-61399156971328073582011-05-20T17:14:49.651-07:002011-05-20T17:14:49.651-07:00I'm sure he'll go somewhere on his mission...I'm sure he'll go somewhere on his mission where they desperately need him to play the piano and then he'll appreciate you :o) I do love the power of the "because I said so" phrase---sorry it's been a rough week!Rheannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18108023804158548671noreply@blogger.com